The Family GatewayReconnection Reset

Printable

After-school flow card

Print this and put it where you will see it at pickup time. It is the whole first hour, in four words.

The Family Gateway

The first hour home

  1. 1ArriveWarm greeting. No rapid questions.
  2. 2RefuelSnack and water.
  3. 3ReleaseMovement, quiet, tears, play, or closeness.
  4. 4ReconnectTen minutes of presence before demands.

If you are unsure what they need

Hungry or thirsty?
Offer food or water.
Overloaded?
Reduce noise, questions, and demands.
Carrying energy?
Offer movement.
Seeking connection?
Move closer and slow down.
Behavior unsafe?
Hold the boundary with fewer words.

Connection is not a reward for good behavior. It is what helps a child return to cooperation.